By Alisa Bowman

Every day several messages flow into my inbox from people who want me to write about their product, help them promote their product, buy their product, tell other people about their product and more. I have about 250 different inbox rules set up to flag such messages and move then directly into my trash bin.

Some of the spam still manages to get through, though. A particularly egregious email came this morning. It got me thinking about how marital communication is a lot like marketing. Do it right and you end up having a deep conversation, getting what you both want, and feeling good about it all. Do it wrong and one of you ends up in the other’s emotional spam filter.

Here are 7 ways to communicate yourself into a spam filter.

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